Perfectionism is the unreasonable and self-defeating ambiton of getting something absolutely high,which makes us difficult to be around and punishing to live within.

the origins of perfectionism lie in the imagination,in the ease with which we can conjure up a picture of an ideal state of affairs compared with the monstrous difficuty of bring such a state into being by ourselves

the sickness of perfectionism gestates in the fertile gap between our noble visions and our mediocre reality

And yet our problems do not ultimately arise in our love of prefection.They lie in our reckless tendencies to under-budget for the difficulty of achieving perfection.

The proper target for criticism is premature perfectionism.How accurately we budget for time and effort--is dependent on a proper grasp of the inherent difficulty of any tasks

If we fully recognise something to be expectionlly difficult,we dont panic when our first effort are weak and progress slow.

Its difficult but we knew it would be.High standards only become a problem when we think something might and should be substantialy easier than it turns out to be and when read our struggles as marks of our own ineptitude rather than as an inevitable part of entirely legitimate lengthy journey. Perfectionism is only a problem because we have underbudgeted for difficulty not because we are aiming high.

our perfection starts to torture us when we lack information on how hard others had to work and how much they had suffered before reaching their ideas of perfection

In a better world,culture world endlessly draw our attention to the first drafts and hidden labours of other people and properly alert us to the true horrors exacted by anything worth doing.we would not then be impatient sickly perfectionisms, we would be patient resilient questers for excellence. The problem isnt that we are aiming for perfection.Its that we dont have an accurately redemptive idea of what perfection really demands